Stay away from these types!! 1. She values education and career over marriage and relationship. She’s always throwing statements like “Marriage isn’t an achievement” 2. At age 30+ she has more liquor in her refrigerator than fruits and vegetables. 3. She can take down more shots than any of her peers at 30+ who have kids 4. She’s into smoking cigarettes and addicted to weed. 5. Her idea of fun at age 30+ is a night out with the girls. 6. At age 30+ she still insists on only dating men based on what their career is. “He’s a lawyer” “He’s a doctor” “He’s an engineer” 7. The idea of cooking for a man is a total turn-off to her. 8. She has never forgiven her father for abusing her mother, or her first boyfriend used to abuse her and she now thinks every man is violent and controlling. 9. She is so much into fashion, and hair-styling she doesn’t want to be identified as being old in her circles 10. Her job involves a lot of travelling. 11. She can easily find a parkin...
A little mystery keeps a relationship exciting.
But too much may end your partnership before it even begins.
To ensure that doesn't happen, you have a bit of work to do. Call it a little extra credit, if you will.
Before you start dating someone, we're tasking you with knowing these 10 important things about them so your relationship can start on solid ground.
1. How They Feel About Their Ex
We can't stress how important it is that you understand the relationship someone has with their ex before you start dating. Are they completely over each other and don't talk at all? Are there lingering feelings still there? Or are they really close friends, but know they're better off that way? Being aware of this situation will help you better determine if they're worth pursuing. Because why date someone who's still not over another person? Exactly, you wouldn't want that. And we sure as heck don't want that for you either.
2. Their Relationship With Their Family and Friends
Are they close with their family? Do they treat their parents with respect, even if they don't get along? Do they have a lot of friends, a tight-knit group or none at all? It'll take a lot of digging to figure this out, but knowing their relationship with the closest people in their life will give you a glimpse into how they'll treat you. So if they have no friends and don't ever want to be associated with their family, they might be trouble and we'd advise you steer clear. Unless you really want to go for it, because who are we to judge?
3. What Their Schedule Is Like
Some people have packed schedules and others are pretty free. Being aware of their schedule beforehand will let you know how much time they actually have to spend with you. This isn't to say you shouldn't pursue someone if they have a lot on their plate. It's just nice to understand why they're a slow texter or can't always hang out—it's not that they don't want to, it's just that their day-to-day activities take up a lot of their free time. Now, if you're looking for someone to spend all your hours of the day with, don't go chasing someone who barely has time to breathe.
4. Their Plans After High School
There's this notion that once you start dating in someone in high school, you'll be with them for the rest of your life. We hate to break it to you, but that's not always the case. Sure, some couples are in it for the long haul, but not everyone. If you're looking to be with someone forever, you absolutely need to know their plans after high school to better assess if they align with yours. Would you both go to the same college or be on opposite sides of the world? Do they even want to be in a relationship before they head off to college? Don't be afraid to sit them down and ask them all this before you get serious.
5. Their Long-Term Goals
Knowing what their plans are post-high school is super important, but it's also critical you know their long-term goals, too. Where do they see themselves in 10, 20, even 30 years? And are they in line with your life goals? If they're not, are you willing to compromise some of the things you hope to achieve to help them get to the top? Would they be willing to do the same for you? You may not think this is all that important to know, but could you really be with someone who would have you pick their goals over your own and force you to fit into their mold? We don't know about you, but we surely wouldn't.
6. How They Feel About the Things You Enjoy
We're not saying you have to have everything in common with the person you're dating. In fact, we prefer to like a few different things than the person we're seeing, mainly so they can introduce us to new things and vice versa. What matters most is how your future S.O. feels about the things you enjoy. They don't have to like it, but they shouldn't poke fun at you for liking K-pop or horror movies. If they do, then they're not the one for you. You'll find someone who appreciates the things you like, even if they don't necessarily enjoy them themselves.
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