Stay away from these types!! 1. She values education and career over marriage and relationship. She’s always throwing statements like “Marriage isn’t an achievement” 2. At age 30+ she has more liquor in her refrigerator than fruits and vegetables. 3. She can take down more shots than any of her peers at 30+ who have kids 4. She’s into smoking cigarettes and addicted to weed. 5. Her idea of fun at age 30+ is a night out with the girls. 6. At age 30+ she still insists on only dating men based on what their career is. “He’s a lawyer” “He’s a doctor” “He’s an engineer” 7. The idea of cooking for a man is a total turn-off to her. 8. She has never forgiven her father for abusing her mother, or her first boyfriend used to abuse her and she now thinks every man is violent and controlling. 9. She is so much into fashion, and hair-styling she doesn’t want to be identified as being old in her circles 10. Her job involves a lot of travelling. 11. She can easily find a parkin...
In essence, it’s OK to cut down on openness in a relationship from 100% to somewhere in the region of 90% or so. And here’s the reason: some people really just can’t handle the truth. It does not make them bad people or bad partners; they're not just wired to be calm or stay sane in the face of certain revelations.
There are some secrets that you should never hide from your partner especially when they could prove damaging to your relationship.
Here are some of those secrets you should stop hiding:
Your medical information
When you get into a relationship, your medical history matters a lot. In fact, it’s one of the things that people use to decide if they’re willing to have something serious or whether someone’s medical state is too much for them to handle.
You should let your partner know about chronic conditions like asthma because they will be the ones to help you when something happens. Other conditions like HIV/AIDS and STDs such as herpes need to be talked about even before you start dating.
Your relationship expectations
Relationships easily break because of mismatched family goals. Some of them might have been inevitable but there are many that would have survived if there was better communication.
An example is when your partner doesn’t want kids but you know you secretly do. Don’t try to say something just to make them happy because they need to know what your real perspective is.
Major career plans
Dating or getting married means that your lives and goals merge into one. Your career moves will have an impact on each other so this isn’t something to hide.
For instance, if you know that you’re planning to move to a new country for work or school, let them know early. It’s not fair to just mention it when you’ve already decided and started planning for it, or when you’re in the last stages before relocating.
Worries about anxiety, depression, suicidal thoughts or other mental health concerns should be communicated so you can get the help you need.
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