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Because change is so difficult, it's useful to have a guide when attempting to kick an addiction to drugs, alcohol or behavior. Research shows that the following steps can help you move toward your recovery goals. You have the greatest chance of success if you adopt all five steps. 1. Set a quit date. It might be helpful to choose a meaningful date like a special event, birthday, or anniversary. 2. Change your environment. Remove any reminders of your addiction from your home and workplace. For example, separate from those who would encourage you to be involved with the object of your addiction (drug, alcohol, or behavior). If you are trying to quit drinking, get rid of any alcohol, bottle openers, wine glasses, and corkscrews. If you're trying to quit gambling, remove any playing cards, scratch tickets, or poker chips. Also, don't let other people use or bring reminders of the addiction-related substance or behavior into your home. Science has pr...

We asked relationship experts for their best advice on how to get over a breakup, and there are a number of simple steps you can use  1. Rebuild your self-esteem If your partner initiated the break-up, it’s perfectly normal to start picking apart your physical appearance and personality traits, questioning what's wrong with you that would cause someone to fall out of love. Instead, reverse that thought pattern. "Focus on what you really value in yourself and what you brought to the relationship, rather than what qualities you don’t possess. 2. Try three new places "Once a week, find a coffee shop or a restaurant you've never been to, and invite at least one friend to go with you," says Mary Jo Rapini, a psychotherapist and author of Re-Coupling: A Couple’s 4 Step Guide to Greater Intimacy and Better Sex, who gives this assignment to all of her clients who are working on healing from heartbreak.  3. Avoid going after a rebound There's a reason ...

feel good about yourself You would be surprised that sometimes it is very hard to pay attention to the beautiful things in our lives. Most of the time we focus on the ugly things and even the things we can’t do.  Self-appreciation is a way of encouraging yourself about previous work you’ve done, the several achievements you have made, and also how many hurdles you’ve crossed without burning out. It could also be a way of encouraging yourself to do much better It means appreciating yourself not because we are better than others but because everyone has good virtues in them. It is very good that you appreciate yourself consistently. Focus on the amazing things you have in you always and reward yourself for it in a little way. If you don’t know how to go about it, this article will enlighten you more on how to appreciate yourself.   1. Buy gifts A special way to appreciate yourself is to buy yourself gifts and things you’ve always wanted for yourself. This will hel...

Do you cringe or grin when you hear the phrase “first date”? First dates may be a variety of things: awkward, unnerving, exhilarating, catastrophic, great. The first impressions you each make and how effectively you connect with the other person play a significant role in this differentiation. By now, everyone is aware that if you want a first meeting to be pleasant and lighthearted, it’s better to steer clear of subjects like religion, politics, and the like. What sort of questions should you be posing to your companion while you’re seated across a candle-lit table, perched next to one another on a bench outside a coffee shop, or waiting for your movie to start at the theatre to ensure that conversation goes smoothly? Here is a list of 7 questions to ask on the first date: 1. What Makes You Unique? It might be obvious, but the easiest way to connect with someone is to get them talking about themselves. Inquire about their interests and hobbies. Do they prefer thi...

Many times, people complain of being insulted and rejected and they feel ashamed and downcasted from all angles. Below are the simple things to guard yourself with in case you want to have some respect for yourself. (1) Stop looking for who is not looking for you: Do not go about poke-nosing in people’s affairs. (2) Stop begging always: Do not appear to be begging always, especially when you have to choose between right and wrong. just stand on the truth and it will set you free. (3) Stop saying more than is necessary: Do not just talk to be included in the list of speakers but talk when necessary or when asked to do so and when you do, let your speech be embedded with knowledge and wisdom because it is the principal thing to do. (4) When people disrespect you, confront them immediately: Do not be gentle for too long and overlook people who always disrespect you but confront them to put a stop to anomaly becoming normal. (5) Don’t eat other people’s food more than they eat yours: Do no...

When it comes to saving money, we all have good intentions, right? We tell ourselves that we’ll start saving money when we reach a certain age, get a raise, or Jimmy (finally) moves out of the basement. 11 Easy Practical Ways to Save Money You Need To Know 1. Reduce Your Grocery Spending Most people are surprised to learn how much they spend at the grocery store each month after creating a budget. And, if you’re like the average American family, you’re probably spending somewhere around $647. 2. Make Good Use of Any Extra or Unexpected Income When you receive a nice work bonus (congratulations! ), inheritance, or tax refund, put it to good use. And by “good use,” we don’t mean adding that fancy new stamp to your stamp collection or even putting it in the bank. 3. Lower your energy costs Did you know that by making a few changes to your home, you can save money on your electric bill? Begin by taking shorter showers (not fewer), repairing leaky pipes, washing your clothes in cold tap w...

Dating is a topic that's hard to avoid, especially for teens and young adults. Many of us are venturing into the world of dating for the first time, and our culture seems hyper-obsessed with all things love and romance. Because of this, most of us witness a barrage of advice that can be misguided at best and downright bad at worst. So, forget what you've heard and listen up to this dating advice that we wish we'd personally known a bit sooner. 1. Date Like a CEO, Not Like an Interviewee When it comes to dating, a lot of us have a tendency to date in a way that leans towards doing or saying whatever you think you need to in order to make the other person like you. In a way, this would be like the way you act during an interview for a job—marketing yourself in a way that shows that you check all of their boxes, rather than focusing on whether or not it's even a good match for you in the first place. Instead, go into a date in the mindset of a CEO. Tha...

A little mystery keeps a relationship exciting. But too much may end your partnership before it even begins. To ensure that doesn't happen, you have a bit of work to do. Call it a little extra credit, if you will. Before you start dating someone, we're tasking you with knowing these 10 important things about them so your relationship can start on solid ground. 1. How They Feel About Their Ex We can't stress how important it is that you understand the relationship someone has with their ex before you start dating. Are they completely over each other and don't talk at all? Are there lingering feelings still there? Or are they really close friends, but know they're better off that way? Being aware of this situation will help you better determine if they're worth pursuing. Because why date someone who's still not over another person? Exactly, you wouldn't want that. And we sure as heck don't want that for you either. 2. Their Relationship W...

You might find it tough to fall asleep at night as a result of certain things you do that are unhealthy. That notwithstanding, they are things you can do to help fall asleep fast. 1. Watch what you eat The food you eat can affect the way you sleep. Spicy foods, for instance, are known to make acid reflux degenerate and trigger heartburn when you lie down.  Caffeine, which is contained in coffee and chocolate can keep you awake. The half-life of caffeine is about 5 to 7 hours, so for most people, avoiding it in the early afternoon is advisable. Foods that are important to a healthy diet also help your sleep health. The intake of a diet that’s high in sugar, saturated fat and processed carbohydrates can interrupt your sleep. But eating more plants, fibre and foods rich in unsaturated fats tend to have the opposite effect. Avoid alcohol intake close to sleep time as it can increase your risk for sleep-walking, sleep-talking and more nightmares. 2. Don’t overthink trying ...

A 25-year-old boy identified as Samuel Owolabi has been arrested by the Lagos State Police Command while attempting to see his mother's car without her knowledge and consent.  Lagos State Police Public Relations Officer, SP Benjamin Hundeyin confirmed this on Tuesday.  He said Owolabi was arrested where he brought his mother’s car to sell without her consent.   According to him, the boy's mother has been contacted to come and pick her car, adding that the mother was shocked to hear about the incident. Samuel Owolabi A 25-year-old boy identified as Samuel Owolabi has been arrested by the Lagos State Police Command while attempting to see his mother’s car without her knowledge and consent. Lagos State Police Public Relations Officer, SP Benjamin Hundeyin confirmed this on Tuesday. He said Owolabi was arrested where he brought his mother’s car to sell without her consent. According to him, the boy’s mother has been contacted to come and pick her car, addin...